a) As a husband, i'm glad she's publishing this. I think it's important for people to see.
b) As a husband, in this situation, there is only so much you can do. And if it happens to you, you will hate it. You'll gt really frustrated about not being able to do anything more proactive than fetching ice chips and you'll be mad that you went to school to be a make up artist and then settled on being a computer nerd and part time trainer instead of going to medical school so that you could prepare for this eventuality. (I can only imagine I will feel this way about possible career choices every time we have a crisis for the rest of my life).
c) I think the important thing to realize here is that getting ice chips and holding hands and cracking jokes DOES help. As much as you can. Support is the best thing you can give.
The Nerd trainer parts of me have been sad lately watching the wife's diet slide around (and mine, to be fair). At times like that, it helps to remember that sometimes you just need to eat some cake to get over something. Is that a healthy coping mechanics that promotes a good relationship with food? No. But get over it.
The Druid parts of me sometimes get sad when one or both of us has faith troubles and doesn't want to go to Grove meetings and events. But as a great Druid once said, you fake it till it's true. You do the ritual, you go to the meetings, and you offer at your altar because it's when you don't feel the drive to engage in your faith that you need it the most.
I am grateful to a few folks from our grove who have been really great and helpful and offered support at every turn. they came over and did a healing ritual and if nothing else that really helped the Magpie get past some of this. Healing of the spirit, much like healing of the body, is not fast. And it happens at a different rate for everyone. We just need to accept that it will come in it's time.
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